Sexual prowess is a subject that many men often boast about, but what happens when those claims fall short in the bedroom? Unfortunately, this is a common experience for many women who have encountered men who brag about their sexual abilities but fail to deliver. In this article, we will explore the stories of women who have had disappointing sexual experiences with men who bragged about their skills. These women shared their honest and raw experiences of feeling let down and frustrated by the mismatch between the man’s bragging and their actual performance. Through their stories, we hope to shed light on the impact that unrealistic societal expectations can have on sexual encounters, and encourage more open and honest conversations about healthy and fulfilling sexual experiences.
Many women expressed frustration with the disparity between their expectations of sex with a new partner and the reality of the experience. A lot of them were in agreement that men often overestimate their own abilities and that the reality of the situation is often disappointing. I mean, sometimes just let the work speak for itself you know?
“A Tampon Would Have Had More of an Impact”
I met a good looking guy in 2020, and not too long after we started texting constantly. We communicated for almost 4 months without being sexual or intimate. Until one day when I told him about my sexual experience with someone I was seeing. I mentioned how the guy was terrible at foreplay and he chuckled then went on to say “If I go down on you, you would never want to leave.” He went ahead to brag about his ex that apparently “kept coming back for more.” He said his d*ck game was magical, and hearing these things obviously got me aroused so I made plans to “Netflix and Chill.”
When I got to his place and saw him, I almost lost my temper because he was so short. I was way taller than him and in my books, most short guys are not as endowed as taller (skinnier) guys. At least 90% of them. After settling in, we finally got intimate and to say it was underwhelming is an understatement. There was no foreplay and he never even went down on me. He barely even touched me down there. He was just so impatient to have sex. Eventually I gave in and I honestly didn’t feel anything. It was just like a pen poked me. A tampon would have had more of an impact. I immediately asked him to stop because I wanted to go home. I was even nice enough to ask if he came – he didn’t so I told him that one day he will, then stormed out. When I got home, he called to ask how the sex went. At first, I wanted to be nice but his performance was mid so I told him it was terrible. I stopped responding to his messages and almost blocked him. He called a few weeks later to inform me he was in my area and asked if I could take him out. Out of anger, I told him if he had given me good d*ck, I would have. I didn’t even wait for him to respond, I blocked his number immediately.
– Temi, 27
“Mediocre Sex”
I used to have casual sex with this guy who would ask me things like “Whose p*ssy is this” during sex. And mind you, the sex was mediocre. One time, I was going through a terrible breakup so we decided to meet up because I needed to get my mind off things. During sex he then asked me, “Did your ex ever make you feel this good?” and the question really upset me so I said to him “yes, he did, and even better” which was 100% true. And I told him he shouldn’t have asked me that in the middle of bad sex. I was even more upset because he made me think of my ex, who I was trying to get over! I got pissed, wore my jeans and went back to my house to cry.
-Bola, 22
“Big Biggy”
I met this man at a friend’s birthday party, we exchanged numbers, and started talking. After a few weeks, our conversation took a different direction. We started talking dirty and I liked it. We went on a date a few times and it was fun. He was also a good looking guy so I started to fall for him. Whenever we spoke dirty, he would always say how he was the master of KamaSutra. He even went on to convince me that he had a big d*ck and actually called himself “big biggy“. And that’s not even the crazy part.
He would do the corniest things like randomly flex his muscles to prove a point? I still don’t know. He blabbed about how he would bend me into all sorts of crazy positions and it always got me extremely turned on. I couldn’t resist the urge to invite him over so I did. I wanted to see this “master of sinful deed” in his true form. When he finally came over, I sensed he was tense so I asked him to kiss me. But the kiss was so sloppy. He couldn’t even kiss so I had to teach him. I eventually got tired of taking the lead because it seemed like he didn’t know what to do. I was just waiting for the master of Kamsutra to blow me away but that never happened. I went ahead to feel his d*ck and froze. It was so small but I didn’t want to judge by the size so I let him slide in. No surprise at all when I didn’t feel anything. It felt like he was tickling my walls and to top it off, he came within minutes. I was so disappointed because he had bragged so much about everything so I was expecting more. I even found out that his idea of a wild position is missionary. After he left, he texted me apologizing saying I caught him at a bad time and wanted to make plans to see again. He even assured me that he would impress me if I made future plans with him but I wasn’t interested. Eventually, I deleted his number.
-Uloma, 25
“More Focused on His Pleasure”
During a party, I met this guy and we hit it off immediately. He was charming, confident, and had a great sense of humor. We exchanged numbers and went out on a few dates, and everything seemed to be going really well. One day at the club, he started randomly bragging about his sexual prowess and how he was going to blow my mind in bed. It was all so spontaneous to me so I was intrigued and excited to see what he had to offer. A few weeks later, I decided to go to his house but at the end of the day, the reality was quite disappointing. He was all talk and no action (no surprise because the ones who talk too much usually have nothing to offer.)
He seemed more focused on his pleasure than mine, and didn’t seem to care about my needs or desires. It felt like he was just going through the motions and wasn’t interested in making it a pleasurable experience for both of us. His p*nis also kept getting flaccid and worst of all, he was horrible at foreplay. My vibrator on one percent would have pleasured me better. After that night, I realized that all his bragging had just been a façade. He was trying to impress me with his sexual abilities but in reality, he didn’t know how to please a woman. It was a huge letdown and I couldn’t help but feel disappointed and frustrated. He tried calling a few times to apologize, but I just kept on ignoring his calls till he got the message.
-Eniola, 27
“Sex God”
I met this guy on Facebook, and we exchanged numbers immediately. He was charming, funny, and confident – everything a girl could want in a guy. Things quickly turned sexual and he started bragging about how he was a “sex god” in bed. He told me he had experience with all sorts of kinky things and couldn’t wait to satisfy my every desire. He also told me how his tongue game was amazing so of course I was intrigued! He said, and I quote “..my tongue has a total power output of 986 horsepower, like that of a Ferrari.” Thinking about it now, I don’t even know why I took this man seriously. I guess I was just horny. And I had never been with a guy who was so confident in his abilities so I was excited to see what he could do. But when we finally met and got down to business, it was a huge disappointment. He had no idea what he was doing. He was clumsy, fumbling, and completely out of sync with my body. He didn’t even listen to what I wanted. This man just wanted to cum and get it over with. I brought my A-game, and all I needed in return was to have multiple orgasms. Which wasn’t too much to ask because I had this man moaning my name for minutes. He was also a bit forceful. When I would go down on him, he would move and push my head down aggressively.
I couldn’t help but feel angry and frustrated. How could he have talked such a big game and then not delivered? It was a massive turnoff, and I couldn’t wait for it to be over. In the end, I realized that his bravado was just a mask for his insecurity. He was so obsessed with being seen as a “sex god” that he forgot to focus on the most important part of sex—the connection between two people.
-Adaeze, 27
What Women Want
When it comes to expectations and reality during sex, women want honesty, respect, and communication from their partners. Rather than bragging about their sexual prowess, women prefer men who are open and willing to listen to their needs and desires. It’s important for men to understand that every person’s sexual preferences and desires are unique, and what worked for one partner may not work for another. By bragging about their sexual abilities, men create unrealistic expectations and set themselves up for disappointment and potentially damaging experiences for their partner. In reality, sex is not a performance or a competition, but a shared experience between two individuals who care about each other. Women want men who are willing to explore and experiment in the bedroom, but who are also attentive to their partner’s needs and respectful of their boundaries. Women want to feel safe, comfortable, and in control during sexual encounters, and this can only happen through open and honest communication. Ultimately, what women want is a partner who is genuine. By putting aside the pressure to perform and instead focusing on creating a safe and enjoyable experience for both partners, men can create a more fulfilling and satisfying sexual experience for themselves and their partners.
