Can We Stop Judging Lori Harvey For Um, Simply Just Dating?

When there’s breaking news about Lori Harvey, it’s always about her dating life or her fitness plans. Apparently pilates is the way to go for your summer body goals. 

Last year, she was trending due to her breakup with Michael B. Jordan and although there wasn’t much said about why the two decided to part ways except something about them being in different places, everyone can agree they were an attractive couple and Michael was definitely an upgrade from Future. However, because they were both so hush, hush about it, it made a lot of internet therapists entitled to give their think pieces on what happened. And the main one being that Lori is basically a savage and a [redacted] for breaking a good man’s heart.

What I personally had a major problem with, was the fact that people were blaming a woman for a breakup nobody knew absolutely nothing about. In fact, she never speaks on her relationships and the worst is assumed about her because she simply just dates and her choices seem to get better with each relationship. I mean, if that isn’t a good thing, then i’m not quite sure what is anymore.

Recently, Lori was trending all over social media after she confirmed her relationship with actor, Damson Idris, in a new Instagram post amid her 26th birthday. And you just know the internet was in shambles as this is her first public relationship since her split from Michael B. Jordan.

At 26, Lori has a lifetime ahead of her to discover herself and more of what she wants. If her past relationships weren’t serving her current goals, why should she be obligated to stay in them? Honestly, Lori should be every girl’s hero right now. For women, there is so much pressure from society to settle down with a “good man” once we reach a certain age and sometimes this forces us to make poor choices when it comes to settling and choosing partners. The truth is, there’s more to life and no one should have to settle for less than what they want. Especially if they aren’t even ready.

There was some critique that she seems to move on too quickly but how can anyone really know except for those closest to her? She could be hurting as much as the other person. Because she doesn’t come on social media to cry and subtweet doesn’t mean she isn’t sad about a relationship ending. Honestly, it’s almost like the expected response is to see her crying or suffering after every relationship fails but she doesn’t owe that to anyone and this doesn’t make her a heartless person either.

This situation serves as a lesson for all women who are dating rn: Stick to your standards. There is no need to settle if a situation isn’t serving you. This can look like dating for fun or even for something serious but don’t let anyone bully you about how you choose to date! Go out with whoever you want until you’re ready to settle down, just as men do.

Read: 4 Things Men Can Actually Teach Us About Walking Away From a Toxic Relationship