Modern Dating Sucks. Where Did Romance Go?

Maybe I’m just a romantic, but I can’t be the only one that thinks the world of modern dating is horrendous?

Maybe I’m in my feelings because I just spent the last two weeks binging Bridgerton (TWICE), and I too would like to be the Bane of someone’s existence, and the object of their desires. Is that too much to ask?

Okay seriously, I know dating has its ups and downs, but modern dating can be so overwhelming, streets are really tough.

These days, people aren’t bothering to even try; from no one putting in the real work to the constant lack of communication and meaningless DM’s, the modern dating scene is just so tricky and complicated, how are we single girls managing, honestly?

Here are five reasons why modern dating is such a struggle.

1. You’re Supposed To Consistently Have Sex and Not Catch Feelings

In the world of modern dating, you can’t be out here catching feelings or wearing your heart on your sleeve, because we’re all slowly adapting to hookup culture.

I mean, not that there’s anything necessarily wrong in casual sex, but with modern dating, it’s almost considered crazy to get attached to someone you’ve been sleeping with. If you do, you’re basically the too sensitive person who misread signals and got attached when you weren’t supposed to. Crazy, amiright?

2. You Have To Be The Person Who Cares Less

We all seem to be playing the game of “Who can act like they care less, the most”, meaning the person who consciously acts like they’re detached, has all the power. Right? wrong. It’s so unhealthy and nobody really wins the game, and nobody wins because nobody is really trying.

The struggle is real.

3. You Want Commitment, But Who Else Does?

You. Yes, you reading this. How many talking stages have you had this year? The talking stage seems like where it ends for most people, and it is so tiring. You open up to a person and really bond with them, and then they either ghost you or suddenly get distant. The worst part? you’re supposed to act cool, like you could care less, and then move on to the next person. And so, the cycle continues.

4. No One Really Knows How To Date

Do men still approach women in public, or do they just slide in the DM’s? It’s the latter, duh. I can’t tell you the amount of times a guy has responded to a story I posted on Instagram with the infamous eye emoji (👀) or the fire emoji (🔥) as a way to start conversation. The bar has been set so low. Even asking someone out for drinks can be considered a thoughtful date.

5. Modern Dating Is All Mind Games

One of the most frustrating things about modern dating, is how we’re all just out here playing mind games with each other by making things more complicated than they should be. One day, you’re having what seems like the most genuine conversation with someone, and the next day, you haven’t heard PIM from them. From ghosting, to gaslighting, to sending mixed signals, why can’t things be so simple?