Being in a long-term relationship can be all dreamy at the early stages but things tend to lose their spark with time, especially if you and your partner have busy schedules. In this article, I hope you can draw up those rainbows and recapture those butterflies that may have fizzled out overtime, because we all need that perfect romance that’s quite old but still feels kind of new, so here are 5 practical tips that will definitely help to keep things interesting.
- Go Out on Unconventional Dates
Nothing rekindles a spark like spending quality time together, so take things up a notch by stepping out of your usual dating scenes and try something different.
You can try having a picnic with your partner at one of the many parks in Lagos, The Garden Ikoyi is the cutest spot for you and your boo; its an urban green space that’s very intimate and private. Plan a picnic setting, lay out a checkered blanket, get a cute basket and fill it with some food and a nice bottle of wine. If you don’t want to leave your house, you can set up a picnic in your backyard. If you don’t have access to a grassy backyard, you can get a small roll of artificial grass or a grass carpet, clear out your living room space and set everything up like the outdoors. You can play soft background music of birds and nature to make the false sense of greenery feel all the more realistic.
Karaoke is also a nice idea for an unconventional date, you can visit Shaunz Karaoke Bar for a great night out with your partner, or if you and your man/woman have never been out on a double date, then you can plan with another couple and go somewhere nice for dinner, like the La Taverna Chilean Restaurant in Victoria Island.
- Be Wickedly Creative
If you’re not a born Picasso then you don’t have to break a sweat and the same goes for the Picasso’s amongst us, because that’s not the kind of creativity I’m implying. The kind of creativity I’m talking about is strictly for between the sheets.
If you’re up for it, you can try these sex tips next time you’re going down on your knees; the first idea is with a frozen grape or ice cube, you can start off by giving your partner oral with the normal warm temperature of your mouth, then pop in a frozen grape or an ice cube along the way to make things more sensational or stimulating, bonus tip; including a blindfold with this tip would make it more intense. The second idea is for when things get a little heated in the shower, coat your hand with a very mild skin scrub and proceed to gently stroke his dick. The last tip is one a lot of us are quite familiar with, lather his dick all over with some ice-cream or honey and lap it all up while maintaining eye contact.
You can also try new sex positions with your partner or you can include games in your bedroom antics like rolling a dice to decide who would be submissive or something of that sort. Applications like Kindu, iPassion, Blindfold, Lovester and Suprem Sexy Dice are effortless ways you can build up intimacy with your partner. These applications are programmed to help couples rekindle their romance by providing endless sexy questions and provocative activities for both parties to participate in.
- Talk About the Future
A lot of people don’t see how this tip can spice things up and I perfectly understand why, but it’s extremely important that you know where you stand in your partners life before you start dreaming of spending eternity with him or her.
These questions would definitely help in getting the conversation started:
What’s one thing you look forward to about getting old?
Do you think I’m best for you right now and why?
What do I mean to you?
Where do you see us headed?
What were the expectations you had before we started dating and would you honestly say I am living up to them?
If you feel what you have with your partner is serious, then talking about the future should be something you do from time to time, if you haven’t started having conversations like this then you should probably work up the courage to do so.
- Plan Surprises
I’m kind of guilty of only thinking of surprises on birthdays, which I believe is fair.
Planning a surprise for your partner without there having to be an occasion for it, is a perfect way to reignite warm fuzzy feelings, it shows you deeply care about him or her and it’s a perfect way to express how much you appreciate them or how much he or she means to you.
So, go out of your way to get something nice for your partner without letting them in on it, or you can also secretly host some of his or her friends over and work on making it a night for him/her to unwind and have fun. Plan a sweet and memorable surprise for your partner that will make them feel like you always have them on your mind.
- Spend Some Time Apart
Believe it or not, this tip makes you value your relationship more. Spending some time apart from your significant other isn’t a bad thing, on the contrary its a great thing.
By having some time to yourself or spending some time away from each other, you can both preserve your individuality and improve your relationship, the time spent apart will help you reenergize your souls and enable you give more to each other.
Caring for yourself is also a way of caring for your relationship, so take out time to do the things you love or plan friend dates with your close friends. You’d be surprised how much of an improvement there would be in your relationship.
What are some tips you have on spicing up your relationship? tell us in the comments below!