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In this article, Arina* shares what it was like to have an Orgy for the first time. She describes it as “an interesting weekend” that she’s not likely to ever forget.
“So my name is Arina, I’m in my early twenties and I live and breathe on empowering women. I’m also opinionated, hot-headed, compassionate and ridiculously sensitive. Additionally, I’m a biracial and bisexual Nigerian woman living in Lagos State, Nigeria. I am in an open relationship with a woman I have been with for over a year. I completely adore her.”
My Dating Life
I don’t know if I have much of a dating life as I haven’t properly “dated” since maybe 2019. And that relationship ended a year later in early 2020. As we all know, the coronavirus did away with a lot of relationships. After him, I got together with someone I had been friends with for over a year, at the time. We started dating in August 2021 and we were together 8 months before I realised I had to move on. I loved him with everything inside of me but he didn’t love me enough. A few months after that I was done crying and ready to strut into my hoe era. I was also very ready to explore my sexuality. But all those plans went down the drain when I met a girl. As queer women know, I really don’t have to say anymore.
I’ve been with this woman for over a year now. She’s the first partner I’ve been with for up to a year and she’s also my first girlfriend but not the first woman I’ve ever liked. I dated and acknowledged my feelings for only men until the year 2020. Sometime in late 2019, I was playing a game with some friends. I can’t remember the name right now but it’s that one where you put a piece of paper on your lips and if it falls off while you’re trying to pass it around, you have to kiss the person you were trying to pass to. There was a girl I had been slightly obsessed with who was sitting right next to me and all I could think, when the paper got to her was ‘Please let it fall, please let it fall’. I didn’t care that she was seated right on her boyfriend’s lap or that they had just kissed. If I’m being entirely honest, I had a little crush on him too. Sue me. Anyways, all I needed was for that paper to fall off her lips and fall it did. However, there were a lot of people there and everyone was distracted when it fell. I remember my heart racing. I really wanted to kiss her but I was too scared to bring attention to the fact that the paper fell because I didn’t want anyone to think that I was saying it, simply because I wanted to kiss her. These were thoughts I had barely come to terms with. I didn’t need anyone else’s opinion.
Fast forward to 2023. I’ve been in an open relationship with my girlfriend (let’s call her Sasha) for about 6 months now. We decided to “open our relationship” about 5-6 months after we were exclusive and though there are downsides, we enjoy it more than we hate it. The thing people don’t realise about most open relationships is that there are rules. We’re young and we want to explore but still be with each other so an open relationship is the perfect middle ground. However, we love and respect each other too much so we need boundaries. For example, we can’t be with exes and we can’t just show up at home with someone we intend to sleep with or see for a given period. We have to have a conversation and so on.
Sometime earlier this year, some guy (let’s call him Xander) who’s been obsessed with my girlfriend, Sasha, for a hot minute now, finally grew some balls and shot his shot at her. He found out we had a mutual friend (let’s call her Ria) and through her, he wiggled his way into talking to her. At some point, I joined the conversation and we somehow got invited to spend a weekend (my birthday weekend) at the cutest shortlet somewhere in the Federal Capital Territory; Abuja.
When people meet me and even when they get to know me, they find it a little difficult to picture me having, enjoying and wanting rough sex. They definitely don’t think I would ever be interested in group sex and all it entails. I may not exude sex appeal, but I can be cute, and that’s what usually attracts people to me. They can’t picture ‘cute me‘, being ready to get down and dirty. Most of these people are of course wrong and are usually pleasantly surprised if they happen to see this other side of me. Although I’m picky with the when, who and how, I love sex as much as the next person and I’m pretty sure I wanted this to happen more than anyone else involved.
So it’s the day of our flight and because we had to catch up with Ria, we were late to the airport. Long story short- we ended up having to book another flight. About an hour later, we arrived in Abuja.
The Orgy
Xander wasn’t there when we got in, so while we waited, we decided to play games. Trust me, 3 queer women who are clearly and actively attracted to each other don’t really beat around the bush. We dared each other to basically take turns stripping. I have my confident moments but I’m generally shy and awkward as hell. Especially when it comes to sex. So of course I made everyone go before me. I was hoping the weed and wine we had ordered earlier would kick in by then. I had also tried balloons for the first (and probably last) time so I was hoping that would kick in as well.
Ria went first. She got off the sofa in the living room and stood by the door. She took her time. First, she slow whined to the music in the background and while arcing, she pulled at her grey tank top but didn’t really try to move it. I remember the curve of her waist, the sultry look in her eyes and the sex appeal that oozed off of her. She was a sight. Eventually, the top came off and she was left with nothing but her waist beads and tattoos printed across her pale skin.
Sasha went next. Slowly, she pulled at the strings of her floral dress that lay right on top of her breasts. She’s fully aware of what her body and specifically, her boobs do to me so she took her precious precious time and eventually the dress pooled at her ankles. I quite literally couldn’t and didn’t want to look away.
When it was my turn, I was predictably shy and awkward. Instead of standing up, I turned to my left since they were seated on my right and lifted my shirt with my upper arms while playfully teasing my boobs. I was uncomfortable but I was turned on so I could deal with a little discomfort. Soon after my strip tease (if you can call it that), Xander arrived.
My sole purpose for being there was to finally experience an orgy, something that had been on my bucket list since forever. However, it’s challenging to do so when you only feel comfortable having sex with people you’re genuinely attracted to. For me, attraction isn’t even the right word because it’s fickle and mine is particularly unreliable. I have to thoroughly enjoy something about you. I could end up hating you after sex, but for me to get that vulnerable and open with you, in that moment, I must really like something about you. In any case, I liked everyone present, and no one had said or done anything to put me off. It was going well, and I just hoped it would continue that way. If it’s not already clear, I had little faith in Xander and men as a whole.
Anyway, he (Xander) eventually arrived, and we all gave him a little hug and kisses here and there. We chatted, laughed, and indulged in all our vices. At this point, we were all very relaxed, if you know what I mean. The conversations started getting spicier and the mood shifted. After confirming our test results, we all left the parlour and got into the room and on the bed. We were about to have unprotected sex and I only agreed to it if everyone got tested. I also had/have no intentions of getting pregnant, so Sasha and I were covered on that front too
Ria, a very sexually active woman, almost instantly started making out with Xander. Sasha and I followed suit, with all our hands exploring every inch of skin. Before I knew it I was on my back, Ria was between my legs, Sasha was on my right boob and while stroking his d-ck, Xander nearly gave me a nipple orgasm. I felt my eyes roll to the back of my head as the pleasure kept rising and rising. It felt so good. I felt every second of everything and it felt completely electrifying.
We switched positions and Xander was now on Ria, taking her missionary style, while Sasha and I were going at it (basically scissoring) beside them. It was a rather large bed. We switched again and Xander now was on top of Sasha, while Ria and I were at it beside them. We somehow moved to the bathroom and as we’re all washing up in the large shower, we’re at it again and everyone’s hands get everywhere. It had been some time since I got to enjoy a pen*s so I got on my knees and took Xander into my mouth, licking him all over like a lollipop. Soon after we moved to the room.
Now fair warning, though all of this was consensual, it happened in a drunken daze. I remember enough but I can’t trace the night’s movements sequentially. All I can do is tell it to you as I remember it.
This time Xander is on top of me. He’s the second man I’ve ever let penetrate me and Sasha knew I was anxious about that so after applying a generous amount of lube on his d-ck and my vulva, she guided him into me. It hurt at first, but eventually, I was ready and comfortable taking him. I’m not sure when my hips started moving but move they did. Sasha’s hand stayed there, in case it hurt too much and also so she could rub on my clit. I definitely wasn’t complaining. It was the single most erotic thing I had ever experienced. I still have flashes of that exact moment.
At some point after that, Xander laid on his back while Ria went down on him. I was at his front making out with him as Sasha ate me out from behind. My memory then jumps to me going down on Sasha while Ria rode Xander cowgirl. All the sounds and sensations going on around me only made me more and more aroused. I didn’t want to stop. I didn’t want it to end. The last position I remember was Ria still riding Xander, while I laid on my back as Sasha had a ball between my legs. I savoured the sight of Xander’s d-ck going in and out of her. It was truly exquisite.
With everyone exhausted, drunk, high and sensitive, we waited for our food to arrive. When it did we ate and I went to bed anticipating the next round. We spent the entirety of the next day at a spa. We got facials, massages, a steam bath, foot massages and even got our nails done. Xander also paid for us to get our hair done. Right after that, we all went clubbing and ended the night back at the shortlet. We spent the rest of it slow f-cking each other to sleep. Like I said, it was an interesting weekend. It was an experience and I enjoyed it.
However, I don’t think I’ll be repeating it. At least not with everyone involved in this one. Xander was very nice, accommodating and always ready to spend his money, what’s there to hate? The thing is, a man is a man and before the weekend ended I saw his ugly side (directed towards a woman that was really just doing her job). I was instantly disgusted and knew I could never let him touch me again.
To Anyone Who’s Curious About Orgies:
- Never ever let anyone bully, coerce, cajole, force or pressure you into this. It isn’t for everyone and you shouldn’t be shamed for not wanting to partake in this. There’s nothing shameful about that.
- If you are interested in this, don’t let anyone make you feel like a dirty and wrong person. As long as you are a consenting adult with full control of all of your actions, there is nothing wrong with enjoying sex with multiple people. Sexual pleasure is an amazing feeling that every consenting adult should be allowed to experience without shame of any kind.
- If you want to have raw sex, you have to get tested. You can have safe group sex. It is possible.
- If you want to have raw sex, take all the precautions you can. If the only birth control you have access to is a condom, for your own good, use the condom.
- Don’t settle. If you don’t want to have sex with one or more of the partners involved, you can say no. It may take some time but I advise finding people you are insanely attracted to and vice versa. Orgies should be enjoyed, not dreaded.
- Check-in at intervals. Make sure everyone is okay.
- Enjoy it. Soon it’ll only be a memory.
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