How Do You (Honestly) Get Used To Being Single After A Breakup?

We all handle and deal with breakups differently; for some people, they spend their time taking up old hobbies while some others cry it out. Whatever you do, we think it will be helpful to hear from other women who have gone through the same thing, and how they transitioned from being in a long term relationship to being fabulously single.

Here’s 7 women on how they got used to being single after a breakup:

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1. Sarah | 27 | Bisexual

I was in a relationship with my ex for almost 7 years. It’s the saddest thing how you can believe that you would spend the rest of your life with a person, and then just like that.. things don’t work out.

When it happened, I felt really numb and broken, and I remember all I kept thinking was ”so where do I start from now?”

7 years with someone and just like that, I was single again.

It wasn’t easy moving on or getting through the breakup, I’m not going to lie that it was, but I got through it by just appreciating myself and doing things that I loved. It’s not easy but like they say, time eventually heals everything.

2. K.A | 24 | Straight

I broke up with my ex after two and a half years because I realized I was really holding on to the relationship because I was scared of being single and I was scared to start over, but I thankfully realized how silly that was.

I did love my ex, but it wasn’t enough. Going from having a partner to always do things with, to being single and doing things by myself was actually tough, but I was good! You have to remember that last last, you will be fine.

My friends were always there for me, I kept myself busy by getting into more hobbies and overall, I just tried not to think about the breakup too much.

3. Anon | 22 | Straight

I cried every single day. Every single day. I felt ugly, I felt fat and I just didn’t feel good about myself.

And yeah, my mental health was in the bin.

I actually hated myself, truth be told. My ex broke up with me during a time where I needed him the most, so the breakup I can say, actually broke me. I kept thinking it was my fault because I wasn’t good enough, pretty enough, sexy enough or even smart enough.

It took some time, but I realized that I was being too hard on myself.

Some days were hard and some days were good. Breakup’s are never easy, especially if you dated the person for a while.

Exercising daily helped me clear my head and helped me focus on more important things; myself.

Thinking about it now, I’m like ”sis, was that you crying everyday ???” embarassing, lol.

4. Grace | 26 | Straight

Not everyone is meant to remain in your life, so breakup’s are inevitable and that’s how I look at it.

Omo, I keep it moving after a relationship ends. I’m still the same person, just more flirtatious and outspoken.

Life is way too short, you can’t catch me losing sleep over a breakup. Worser things have happened.

5. Anon | 22 | Lesbian

I actually love being single after a breakup because I use this time to have sex with all the women I was flirting with while I was in a relationship.

It’s like a breath of fresh air because relationships can be so overwhelming! Single life is sweet, so I really like the balance.

6. Thelma | 28 | Straight

I had a son with my ex, but unfortunately that wasn’t the only reason we could stay together.

We shared and still share a special bond but when we had to call it quits, I found it almost impossible to move on.

I never imagined I’ll have a baby father or a child with someone I wasn’t married to, but that’s life, it happens. Never say never.

When our relationship ended I tried to get my mind busy by dabbling into everything, and although that helped, it didn’t exactly make me feel better.

What helped was talking about it to friends and family and them actually listening and giving helpful advice.

At times when I wanted to run back to him, I always reminded myself about the bad times, and the reason for the breakup.

7. Anon | 25 | Straight

Going from someone calling you ”baby” everyday, to no one calling you anything at all can really hurt but it is what it is.

I don’t think there’s a right way to get over a breakup or to get used to being single, you just have to do you.

Do you want to be sad and cry over someone that’s probably doing their thing, or do you want to live your life and be happy?

Me I choose the latter and that’s why after a breakup, I choose to get under someone new.

I’m not saying that will work for the next person or for anyone at all oh, but it works for me.

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