Marijuana And The Modern Day Woman

Is marijuana an aphrodisiac?

Can smoking a joint or eating an edible before sex actually enhance sexual performance and sexual pleasure? Some say yes, some say no. Several scientific studies have shown that too frequent and consistent marijuana use in men can lower testosterone levels and reduce libido over time. However, studies surveying attitudes and beliefs towards marijuana use and sexual activity have shown that both men and women believe that marijuana has aphrodisiac properties that help improve their sex life. Research also suggests that sex and cannabis may heighten sensation, improve a woman’s libido, lower inhibition and promote deeper connection.

Determined to find out what Nigerian women think about it all, we asked a few women in their twenties to share how marijuana use before and during sex contributes to their overall sexual experience.

Omzy

The first time I ever had an orgasm (and I mean one that I didn’t give myself) was the first time I ever had sex high. In fact, that was actually my first time smoking weed ever. I was spending the weekend with my pothead friend who offered me his blunt and, on a whim, I decided to try it. In the words of the great Samantha Jones, “I’m a try-sexual; I’ll try anything once.” One minute we were starting to watch a movie, the next minute we were making out. I had initially thought I’d let the movie play out small before I’d start to hint at anything but once the weed hit, I couldn’t think about anything else, all subtlety had gone out the window. All my senses were incredibly heightened, I could feel every touch so intensely, and everything felt ten times better than normal. You know when you have your first orgasm, you can tell something has just happened in your body, it feels much different to your other bland sexual experiences but you’re not sure if it’s happened or not. This one, nobody needed to tell me. I knew. Since then, I’ve thankfully had more orgasms and 60% of the time I’ve come, there was weed involved.  I’m not very good at math but I’ve put two and two together.

Emiké

Honestly, weed is a part of my everyday life so I can’t categorically say that it enhances my sex life. At this point it just feels normal to me, especially when I was with my long-term partner. What I can say though, is that when I’m a bit nervous about having sex with someone for the first time and I smoke beforehand, I feel a lot more relaxed and confident. Weed helps to lift my inhibitions and makes me feel ready to take control. When I’m high, it’s easier for me to skip the awkward small talk because I’m ready to fuck right away. I feel free to just go ahead and get on with it because I’m less hyper-aware of myself, I’m not overthinking about how I look or thinking of what to say. Weed takes away the awkwardness of everything and allows things to just flow. So naturally, the sex is going to be great because I’m not in my head, I’m able to just let go and be present in the physical as opposed to being so focused on the mental. Sex is always better when your mind is relaxed and you’re able to just enjoy the moment.

Folasadé

I think weed can be an aphrodisiac but it depends on the strain and how much I’m taking at a time. For me, loud is what puts me in the freakiest mood. I always prefer not to smoke too much at a time otherwise it works against me because if I finish a whole joint by myself at once, I’m just going to fall asleep. So if I’m getting ready for a dick appointment, I only take a few hits and it gets me exactly where I need to be. To make things even better, I always have a glass or two of red wine as well. Red wine goes straight to my clit and is guaranteed to get me in the right mood, and combined with weed, I don’t think there’s anything that can make me hornier.

Amaka

Weed helps a lot to lighten the mood before sex. For people like me who prefer to build up sexual tension first rather than just getting straight to it, weed can be the perfect preamble to sexual activity. Listening to music or watching Netflix while smoking weed is always a great way for me and the person I’m sleeping with to chill, connect and build up a little bit of anticipation. Weed also helps improve my sexual confidence by making me feel more relaxed and helps to tune out overthinking, making me enjoy the moment more. The feeling of being relaxed and connected to my partner helps with body image issues and worries that may come up about sexual performance. I wouldn’t necessarily say it improves my orgasms because I feel like my orgasms are the same regardless of whether I’m high or sober, but touches definitely feel more exciting when I’m high.

And just a bit of advice for first time smokers, or anyone who needs it really, it might be helpful to remember that even if weed makes you feel more ‘horny’ or ready to go, this shouldn’t automatically translate to willingness to fuck somebody who you wouldn’t fuck while sober.

Torera

I’m naturally an overthinker, and that tends to inhibit my full pleasure during sex because I find my mind drifting to a thousand and one places instead of being focused in the moment. I could be thinking, “why doesn’t this feel the way I thought it was going to feel?” “is my partner enjoying this?”  “does my body look weird?” or “am I moaning too loud?” I find that weed helps me to focus more and gets me out of my head. I also think that when I have sex high, it’s easier for me to orgasm and my orgasms feel more intensified; everything feels more intense during sex to be honest, that’s what weed does. However, this all depends on whether or not you and your partner are in sync. Regardless of whether you’re high or not, it’s important for you and your partner to communicate and be in touch with one another, so that the sex feels good for both of you. When both my partner and I are high, the sex feels so much better because it feels like we want each other more, it makes the sexual tension feel more intense and consequently, the sex overall feels much more amazing.

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