There are a thousand and one tips for self pleasure that will spark your insides and get your juices flowing.
I hope you do not shy away from self-pleasure? Asides from it being a great way of understanding your own body, it is a healthy and enjoyable way to find out what you like, and what you don’t like.
Female Masturbation isn’t the dirty act society has made it out to be. I mean, men can wank their dicks all day and at every given moment, but women can’t explore their own bodies? Unacceptable.
Masturbating can be a fun journey of a blossoming relationship between you and your body. I highly recommend.
What is interesting to note is, every woman likes it done differently. I mean, of course. Our bodies are different, so do not expect to immediately reach orgasm when you touch yourself. Take your time and get to know your body the way you know how. Don’t rush in anyway. The beauty of masturbation is, it’s you pleasuring yourself so you can take all the time you want and need.
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Self pleasure is a fine journey of self exploration which will open you up, literally.
In this article, I interviewed some women on the best tips for self pleasure and experiencing your own orgasm.
Maryam, 26
I enjoy pleasuring myself. I do it by rubbing my clitoris. I masturbate about twice a month. How do I reach an orgasm? by rubbing on my clit vigorously.
Dinma, 21
Yes, I pleasure myself sexually. I mostly use my dildo but I like to clip my clitoris with my two fingers, one out and the other in while rubbing my clit gently. That really gets me going.
Thelma, 21
Yes, I engage in self pleasure. I just rub on my clit till I cum, sometimes I use my vibrators. How often do I masturbate? Very often actually.
Let’s see, what’s my best tip for self pleasure? I’ve tried a lot of things. I started with lying on my stomach and grinding my hips on a pillow, then I moved on to rubbing my clit in different patterns; sometimes in circles. Fingering myself doesn’t really work, neither does using dildos. So I just stick to vibrators.
Kenny, 22
I masturbate every week, sometimes twice in one week. I think the best way to cum, for me, is fingering and using toys.
El, 22
Of course I enjoy pleasuring myself! I masturbate frequently, as the spirit leads. I pleasure myself with my fingers. What works for me would be touching my clit and nipples. That gives me so much joy.
Udy, 23
I don’t really masturbate. I don’t know, I just don’t find it pleasurable enough. It’s either because I am not sure how to, or I haven’t figured out the best way. It just does not work for me.
Tolu, 25
Yes I pleasure myself, and I enjoy it. Although, It has been a while since I actually masturbated. I get enough pleasure from my partner. When I masturbate however, I watch porn to set the mood, that always works.
Didi, 28
I thoroughly enjoy touching myself from time to time. Even sometimes, I make my partner watch me. I usually do it while lying on my back in bed with my legs spread. I use my fingers alone sometimes, while other times I use my vibrators. I recommend the magic wand, or the rabbit.
Stefanie, 25
I masturbate whenever I’m in the mood, and that’s often if I’m being truthful. I allow my imagination run wild, and I literally role play in my head. Solo sex always makes me feel relaxed and very very satisfied, because what can I say? I know how to give myself multiple orgasms.
A.I, 26
I have a Dildo that remains stationary, so I’m able to actually ride on it. This was the best thing I ever spent my money on because just thinking about the number of orgasms I’ve had from using it, gives me tingles. It’s like a jelly Dildo, I got it from Amazon. Trust me, you’ll forget that you’re riding a Dildo and not a real Penis. And the best part is, unlike a real penis, it does the right things.
Self pleasure is so much fun. Bear in mind that it takes time to discover what you really like. In a survey I conducted, 11 out of 16 women get sexual stimulation from a gentle rub on their clit. That leaves 5 women who are not turned on by clitoral stimulation.
These 5 women could be turned on by light flicks on their nipples, anal stimulation or some unique sexual technique that we do not know.
This is why women are encouraged to explore and find out what works for them. You are stifling away orgasms and blissful climaxes because you haven’t ventured into solo play.
Just know however, there’s no pressure. Take your time, don’t go on a treasure hunt looking for your G-spot, just do you, literally.
