Thoughts? I have millions of them, but for the sake of this article, we will discuss 5. Friendship is a beautiful thing, honestly it is. If you find that you’re lucky enough to have a group of your best girls or guys, then please enjoy it. It’s a sweet thing to have the most amazing people in your corner.
Now, being single? not a very sweet thing. I’m not disputing that being single can’t be wonderful, it can! But just like everything in life, there are Pros, and there are Cons. I mean it’s great to find fulfilment in self love, indulge in a journey to self discovery, figure out and own yourself.. all that powerful stuff. It’s great, really. However, being in a friendship group where everyone is in a relationship but you, can be physically and emotionally draining. I don’t know about you, but it’s not a bed of roses for me.
Everyone being boo’ed up, planning dates, buying gifts, having constant sex (okay fine, you can have as much sex when you’re single, but that isn’t the point), scheduling romantic getaways, taking gorgeous baecation pictures, wearing color coded outfits and what are you doing, bingeing on Netflix? no shade, we’ve all been there.
For us single people, we know the constant feeling of being the third wheel every time! Everyone is in pairs and you’re just staring into your phone – going through settings for the one millionth time, playing candy crush, and going through the screenshots in your gallery. I’ve been there.
Is it joyful when you’ve had to sit through Ifeoma plan sappy saxophone surprises for her new beau? Or when Seyi constantly talks about how romantic Bolu is? Or the time Lucy met her partner Thelma at a concert and couldn’t stop necking everywhere? Not gonna lie, I’d like to have that.
Here are 5 thoughts we’ve all had at some point, being only the single person in our friendship group. One word? Torture.
1/ God When?
I’m a sucker for romance, roses, dinner dates, color coded outfits and love in general. So when I see my friends in love, I’m internally (and sometimes externally) screaming “God when, am I not your daughter too? Am I not your child? When exactly will I meet the bone of my bone?”
This is a thought I am perpetually burdened with and if you’re like me, you are too.
2/ Hmm, I Wonder What My Ex Is Doing Right Now. Maybe I Should I Text Them?
Haha! This is me. When you’re out for dinner with your friends and their partners, and the whole group is just huddled up in pairs kissing, necking and almost literally about to have sex in your single presence, what do you do? Text the ex! Do you people think I can’t kiss too? Word of advice though? Do not do it. If you’ve ever texted your ex for a quick one, you know how it ends. So please, don’t.
3/ How Can I Disappear On Valentines Day?
Holidays are the worst when you’re single. I don’t even need to tell you. Last year I cried reading and watching Twitter and Instagram posts on Valentine’s day. I’m not even joking. REAL HOT TEARS. It’s why the color red annoys me. Truthfully, you can have fun by yourself on holidays. It’s not totally hopeless.
4/ Will I Ever Find Love?
I’m super dramatic. When I get like this, I download a bunch of rom-coms, regency romance and cry myself to sleep dreaming of being in New York City, bumping into a hottie and living out my days in romance. I wake up and continue the cycle, with lots of comfort food, of course.
5/ Last Last, I’m Still Getting Some Anyway
Yes to Dick appointments! Spontaneous, crazy, no strings attached sex. Oh man. You can have the perfect friends with benefits program. You don’t have to worry about jealousy, the pressure to move in together, maybe get married, all the problems of an actual relationship. You’re just bussin’ it down from time to time. Fun times.