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6 Questions You Should Ask Yourself If You’re Thinking Of Getting Back Together With An Ex

The Editors by The Editors
September 9, 2021
in The Single Life, Self, Sex & Relationships
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If you’re thinking of getting back together with an ex, we’ve all been there and its a pretty confusing place to be. Even though you probably broke up for a good enough and legit reason, its normal to crave attachment and comfort, especially when you open social media and the first thing you see is an “I Said Yes!” picture on the gram, followed by baecation carousels.

Its no surprise that you might be considering to go back to what seems familiar. Like I said, we’ve all been there.

And because we can all relate with what you’re going through, we’ve put together a short list of questions you should ask yourself before taking that next step and deciding that your ex is the best fit for you.

Most times, they aren’t. 


1. “Am I Okay?”

Sometimes, especially in a situation like this, you need to take a good hard look at yourself and ask yourself if you’re in fact, okay.

As in, why would you want to do such a thing?

Even if the relationship ended on good terms, you need to ask yourself why you would want to move backwards and not forward.

2. “Am I Sure That I’m Okay?”

Just incase you weren’t true to yourself the first time, you need to ask yourself if you’re sure that you’re really okay.

Here’s the thing about getting back together with an ex: No matter how lovely it may seem (you’ve probably even convinced yourself that they’ve changed) nothing ends without good reason, so ask yourself why the relationship ended in the first place.

Don’t just remember the good moments, but the bad times too.

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source: Alieza Rizvie

3. “Am I Lonely?”

Another important question you need to ask yourself: Are you lonely, bored, horny?

Is that why you want to stress yourself?

Girl, if you’re going through a dry spell get a vibrator or get creative with your fingers.

4. “Am I Sure That I’m Not Lonely?”

If you’ve ever been bored and lonely, you’ll understand that it’s a period were you entertain people you normally wouldn’t.

If it seems like everyone is in a relationship except you, it’s a lie. And even if everyone you know is in a relationship and you aren’t, did they tell you that they are happy? Don’t compare your life or your situation with other people, because you can never really know what they are going through, even though they might appear to seem blissful.

Enjoy your own company and just focus on yourself instead of doing something you know you’ll eventually regret.

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source: Shingi Rice

5. “Will My Friends And Family Be Happy With This Decision?”

Remember that your support system goes through the ups and downs with you.

Your friends were probably aware of the reason why the relationship ended and supported you while you were hurting.

Even if you’ve gotten over past issues with your ex, it doesn’t mean your loved ones have too, and they will always remind you.

6. “Will I Be Happy With This Decision?”

Lastly, ask yourself if getting back together with your ex is what you honestly want and if its something that will truly make you happy.

If it is then, goodluck.

Don’t say we didn’t warn you sha.

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