Embracing diversity and challenging societal norms can pave the way for a more inclusive and accepting world. normalize
In this article, we’re delving into 14 seemingly random yet utterly relatable aspects of life that deserve attention. From celebrating the beauty of hip dips to respecting women who choose not to have kids, indulging in solo dates, and destigmatizing conversations around STIs – we’re exploring a diverse array of things that have the power to reshape our perspectives and foster a more open-minded society.
1. Losing Friendships
If you had told me at the start of this year that I’d be saying goodbye to a friendship that’s been around for a solid decade, I would have never believed it. Life is just weird like that. Friendships change and evolve, and it’s okay to outgrow some. These days, I prioritize quality over quantity because a friend you’ve known for five minutes could be a better companion than a friend you’ve known for five years. I’ve promised myself to cherish the connections that align more with my growth and values, and you should too.
2. Lower Belly Fat
Listen, I’m actually tired of hating my lower belly fat. It’s a common and normal part of the body so I’ve decided to embrace and appreciate my body’s uniqueness more. Our bodies are diverse, beautiful and entirely our own, and that’s worth celebrating.
3. Gaining 5 Pounds Before Your Period
A woman on TikTok shared how her body changed from one week before her period, to the day it started. And it just made me realise how our hormonal fluctuations really cause temporary weight changes. It’s a natural part of our body’s cycle so we just have to deal with it.
4. Women Not Wanting Kids
Have you ever noticed the sheer shock on the face of an older African man or woman when you mention you don’t want children? It’s almost as if you’ve triggered a heart attack. I find it so puzzling how society reacts to a woman declaring she doesn’t want kids. While children are undoubtedly great, it’s strange how society perpetuates the idea that a woman without them is somehow incomplete. I believe a woman’s purpose goes far beyond motherhood. In fact, how about we just normalize not having to explain our choices to others? People always think you owe them an explanation, even when your choices have nothing to do with them.
5. Not Having Your Life Figured Out
Not me seeing 30+ women on Twitter claiming your 30s are really for pretending you have your life figured out, because I thought that’s what your 20s are for? Anyway, we’re all just out here winging it and that’s okay. It’s normal to not have everything mapped out (don’t let social media fool you, please) so today, I’m embracing uncertainty; I heard it often leads to unexpected opportunities and personal growth.
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6. Going on Solo Dates
Why are people usually so shocked whenever they see a woman enjoying her own company in public? It doesn’t mean she’s lonely, and it certainly doesn’t suggest a shortage of friends or people begging to spend time with her. It’s just a testament to her appreciation of her own company. More people need to learn how to date themselves. It’s a great way to explore your own personal interests and savor quiet moments without the need for external company.
7. Sexually Transmitted Infections (STI’s)
While it’s crucial for everyone to prioritize safe sex practices, there’s a pressing need to address the stigma surrounding STIs. The more we stigmatize these conditions, the likelier it is that more people will shy away from seeking help or even discussing their concerns with friends. And this can lead to isolation and even depression. By promoting open conversations and reducing the stigma, we can create a more supportive environment that encourages people to prioritize their sexual health without fear of judgment.
8. Not Wanting to Be in a Relationship
Sincerely, not every woman is actively seeking a partner or romantic relationship, contrary to common assumptions. This might come as a shocker to some, but there are women intentionally choosing to be single. People need to understand (and respect) that we’re all navigating different stages of our lives. Some women are focused on building long-term relationships, while others prioritize expanding their networks through platonic relationships. And the beauty is—there’s nothing wrong with either choice!
9. Wanting to Seek Professional Help
I find it so weird that it’s still such a taboo when someone says they want to see a therapist or a psychologist, and people make it out to be such a big deal, or they look at you like you aren’t sane. It’s almost laughable because we all know how complex life is, and a lot of us are still grappling with unresolved traumas. But you still see people mocking others who choose to seek psychological help. As we grow older, the significance of having a therapist becomes so apparent, and it’s not a sign of weakness but rather a great step towards understanding yourself better.
10. Saying “I Love You” to Your Friends Often
Think about it. When was the last time you openly expressed love to a friend or loved one? I understand we’re all dealing with life and its many problems, but it’s honestly so important to express love – as often as you can – to the people who matter to you.
11. Hip Dips
Refer to number 2 on this list. I love my hip dips, and you should too. Let’s normalize redefining standards and loving ourselves just as we are.
12. Women Having Body Hair
Women having body hair is not just fine; it’s absolutely natural because it’s our bodies! The constant societal pressure dictating what we should do with our own bodies can be exhausting. Body hair is a normal and healthy part of being human, and the power to decide what to do with it should unequivocally be ours. It’s as simple as that.
13. Choosing Not to Forgive Family for Past Traumas
It’s genuinely exhausting to repeatedly hear the mantra of ‘you have to forgive your family.’ Let’s be clear: You don’t have to, and that’s perfectly okay. The notion that forgiveness is a mandatory response, especially when it comes to family members who have intentionally wronged or hurt you, is a perspective that needs reevaluation. It’s entirely valid to acknowledge and accept the emotions tied to those experiences without feeling compelled to forgive. Self-preservation and prioritizing your own well-being should take precedence over societal expectations around forgiveness.
14. Talking Back to Older People
The other day, I had an encounter at the supermarket that annoyed me. An older woman was surprisingly rude to me for no apparent reason. In the moment, I couldn’t ignore her negativity, so I spoke up, addressing her disrespectful behavior. I made it clear that respect is a two-way street and, given her conduct, it was challenging for me to extend courtesy. Her dismissive response, ‘All you young women of nowadays,’ only reinforced the need for mutual respect. I chose to walk away, leaving her to reflect on her actions. It’s a reminder that age alone shouldn’t demand automatic respect, especially when the older person is the one being disrespectful. Respect is earned, and it goes both ways.