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Coping With Grief And Loss: Understanding The Emotional Journey And Seeking Support

Edima Columbus by Edima Columbus
August 16, 2023
in Life, Self, Wellness
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Grief and loss are inevitable parts of the human experience. I have lost a lot of people in my life and I’m still in the process of healing. When I lost my best friend Clinton to a brain aneurysm, I experienced a range of emotions that were overwhelming and confusing. I struggled to find ways to cope with my grief, and it was only through trial and error that I discovered what worked for me. The emotional journey of grief is unique to each individual, and there is no one “right” way to grieve. However, there are some common stages and coping mechanisms that can help you process your emotions and find a way forward.

The Emotional Journey of Grief

Grief is not a linear process, and there is no set timeline for how long it will take to heal. However, there are some common stages of grief that many people experience. These include:

Denial

The first stage of grief is often denial. Losing someone you love can be one of the most difficult experiences you will ever face. When you lose someone, it is common to experience a range of emotions, including shock, anger, guilt, and sadness. One of the most common emotions people experience when grieving is denial. Denial is the first stage of grief, and it can be a complex and emotional journey. It is a natural response to loss, and it can be a coping mechanism that helps you to process the reality of your loss. It can also take many forms, such as avoiding the topic of your loss, refusing to accept the truth, or believing that the person you lost is still alive. Denial can be a powerful emotion, and it can be challenging to overcome.

Anger

As the reality of the loss sets in, we may feel anger or frustration, it is a common and natural response to grief. We may lash out at others, blame ourselves or others for the loss, or feel a general sense of unfairness about the situation. It is important to recognise that anger is a temporary emotion. Anger is a common emotion that arises during the grieving process. When we experience loss, we may feel angry about the situation and the unfairness of it all. This can also be a response to feeling helpless and out of control. For example, if a loved one dies suddenly, we may feel angry about not being able to prevent it or feeling like we had no control over the situation. Anger can also be a way of coping with other emotions such as sadness or fear. It can feel easier to be angry than to feel the pain of loss or the vulnerability of grief. Anger can also be a way of expressing the intensity of our emotions and feeling like we are doing something in response to our loss. However, if it is not processed in a healthy way, it can lead to more negative consequences. Unresolved anger can lead to bitterness, resentment, and prolonged grief. It can also harm relationships and prevent us from moving forward in the grieving process.

Bargaining

Bargaining is a natural response to grief, and it is a stage that often comes after denial and anger. While bargaining can provide a sense of control and comfort, it is also a stage that can lead to further pain and frustration. Bargaining can manifest in many different ways, including religious or spiritual bargaining, where a person tries to make deals with God or a higher power. Bargaining can also involve attempts to negotiate with others or make promises in exchange for a different outcome. As with the other stages of grief, bargaining is not a stage that a person can rush through or skip over. It is an emotional journey that takes time and requires patience and self-compassion.

Depression

As we come to accept the loss, we may feel a deep sense of sadness and depression. We may withdraw from others, lose interest in things we used to enjoy and feel a general sense of hopelessness.

Acceptance

The final stage of grief involves accepting the reality of the loss and finding a way to move forward. This does not mean that the pain of the loss goes away, but it does mean that we are able to find a new sense of normalcy in our lives. Acceptance is not just an endpoint, but a journey. It is a process that involves coming to terms with the reality of loss and learning to live with it in a way that allows us to move forward with our lives. While it can be a difficult and challenging process, it is also one that can lead to emotional healing, personal growth, and connection. By embracing acceptance as the emotional journey of grief, we can find a way to honour what we have lost and move forward with hope and resilience.

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Coping Mechanisms For Grief

Accepting the Reality of Loss

The first step in coping with grief is accepting the reality of loss. It can be difficult to come to terms with the fact that a loved one is no longer with us, but it is an essential part of the grieving process. It is important to acknowledge the pain and sadness of the loss, and to allow yourself to feel these emotions.

Talking About It

One of the most helpful things for me was talking about my feelings. I found that sharing my thoughts and emotions with close friends and family members helped me to process my grief. It was comforting to know that others were there to listen and support me.

Finding Comfort in Memories

Memories can be a powerful source of comfort during the grieving process. I found that looking through old photos and videos of my friend brought back happy memories and reminded me of the good times we shared. It was a way to keep his memory alive and to honor him.

Taking Time to Heal

Grief is a journey, and it takes time to heal. It is important to be patient with yourself and to take the time you need to grieve. I found that taking breaks from work or other responsibilities and allowing myself time to reflect and be alone was helpful.

Self Care

Self-care is also an important part of coping with grief. Taking care of your physical and emotional health can help you feel better and manage your grief. For me, this meant getting enough sleep, eating healthy foods, and exercising regularly. It also meant finding ways to relax and unwind, such as reading a book or taking a bath.

Finally, Seek Support!

As someone who has experienced multiple losses in my life, I have found that seeking support from grief has been a critical part of my healing process. After Clinton, my uncle died suddenly, I was devastated. I felt like my world had come crashing down around me, he died in my arms. The first time I saw someone’s life leave their eyes, I didn’t know how to cope with the overwhelming sense of loss and sadness that I was feeling. That’s when I reached out to a grief support group. At first, I was hesitant to attend the support group. I didn’t know what to expect, and I was worried that I would be judged for my feelings. But I quickly realized that the group was a safe space where I could share my thoughts and feelings without fear of judgment. Talking to others who had gone through similar experiences helped me feel less alone and more understood. Through the support group, I learned that grief is a journey and that there is no “right” way to grieve. I also learned that it’s okay to feel a range of emotions, from sadness and anger to guilt and confusion. The group gave me practical tools and strategies for coping with my grief, such as journaling, meditation, and self-care practices. In addition to the support group, I also found comfort in talking to friends and family members about my grief. While it was hard to open up at first, I realized that sharing my feelings with others helped me process my emotions and feel more connected to those around me.

Grief is a difficult and often lonely experience, but seeking support from others can make a significant difference in our ability to cope. Whether it’s through a support group, counselling, or simply talking to friends and family members, reaching out for help can be a powerful way to heal and find hope in the midst of loss. As someone who has experienced the benefits of seeking support from grief, and understands the coping mechanism for grief, I encourage others to do the same. Together, we can help each other through the difficult journey of grief.

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