When it comes to toxic relationship behaviors, cheating tops it all but a little investigation and experience will make you realize that there are a host of other ghetto behaviors that are just as toxic as cheating, and this list highlights them all.
Yes, they aren’t cheating but are they making you put up with any of this?
1. When They Stay In Touch With People Who Caused Issues In Your Relationship (Even After They Assured You They Cut Them Off)
This is very disrespectful and it is also lying. Putting your partner in a position that seems like you value a third party more than you value them, is so hurtful and rude. If this person is so important that your partner can’t cut them off even when he/she is an obvious threat to your relationship, they might as well just go on and date them.
2. When They Share Your Private Information With Their Friends
Your partner should be your safe space, the one person you can count on to have your best interests at heart, but if they constantly disburse details about your life to their other friends then you should start rethinking your relationship tbh. It’s never okay for anybody to use your life as gist content with other people, especially when it’s delicate private information. They should respect your privacy.
3. When They Want To Control Your Every Move – From What You Wear To Where You Go
There is a fine line between a caring partner and a controlling one. When a man moves from ‘Be careful while you’re out babe’ to ‘I want you home at so and so time’, or when he begins to make snarky comments about your choices of clothing, he has now graduated to being domineering and my good sis, you need to let him know that you are a grown woman, and not a remote. Men will chase after the most gorgeous and independent women, but when they start officially dating they suddenly want to change them. Make it make sense.
4. When They Are Unsupportive
This is 2021, every adult knows that supporting your partner is an absolute must, and I don’t just mean financially. Your partner is your person, they should add value to your life by supporting you in every aspect; from putting you on to new business ideas to being your constant shoulder to lean on, to being your biggest supporter. If your partner shows no interest in your growth, lifts no finger to show you support and stays nonchalant about your dreams and ambitions, then what value are they really adding to your life? (seriously, ask yourself).
5. When They Let Their Friends & Family Disrespect You
I can tell you for free that if anyone truly loves you, they will find it within themselves to never ever disrespect you. If the friends and family of your partner brazenly disrespect you often, then it’s likely because your partner enables it. And truthfully, you have no business being in a relationship with someone like that. Fix your hair, pick up your bag, and sashay out of that relationship. Disrespect is not part of the up’s and down’s of a relationship, unless you accept and condone it.