The Single Girl Diaries: My Kayan Mata Experience

The Single Girl Diaries is a series where we explore the many interesting, unfiltered stories and experiences of Single girl’s everywhere. From the fun times to the hard times, we want to hear all about it! The stories range from experiences with sex and dating, money, self improvement, career and sexual health. 

In this article, *Christabel talks about using Kayan Mata to enhance her sex drive and overall sexual experience. Kayan Mata originated from Northern Nigeria and is a generic name for a range of different kinds of aphrodisiacs; lubricants, herbs and sweeteners.

My Dating Life

My dating life is as stressful as it is for any other person living in Lagos, but I’ve dated some very wealthy men in the past so I can’t complain. I love to be in love, but I just haven’t been so fortunate when it comes to meeting good guys. I met Gbemi* while I was at the movies. I was actually on a date with someone else. He approached me once I was alone and at first I thought it was creepy, but he was too good looking to form for. We exchanged numbers and a few days later, he finally called.

I was irritated that it took him almost a week to call, but I didn’t complain. He applied pressure immediately; He took me to dinner the day after, bought me jewelry, got me flowers and even spontaneously sent N350,000 in the same week. I’m not materialistic, but at the same time, I am. I love men who spoil you from the jump and maintain that energy. I didn’t come to this life to hustle with anybody’s son so I avoid guys who are looking for ride or die women to give the bare minimum to.

I was ready to sleep with him by the weekend. That’s the thing – If you spoil a woman and treat her with respect, she is going to want you.

I went all out and even bought sexy lingerie for the occasion. We met at his house because he had set up dinner cooked by his chef. The night was amazing.

Afterwards, I asked him to meet me in his bedroom in 15 minutes. As soon as I got to his room, I quickly ran to the bathroom to have a quick shower and wash down there.

My Sex Life

I would rate my sex life a solid 8/10 if anyone asked, but on this night with Gbemi, I don’t know what happened. I was turned on so I thought sex was going to be amazing, but it wasn’t. I’m usually naturally well lubricated but on this night, I seemed dry, which was weird because like I said, I was horny. The reason why I knew sex was mid for him was because he didn’t call. I’m the one who called exactly five days later and the conversation was so brief because he was “busy.”

I was still experiencing vaginal dryness when I started to think I had an infection. But asides feeling dry down there, I didn’t have any other symptoms. I was starting to feel really insecure so I opened up to a friend about my situation and she advised that I try Kayan Mata. Once she told me about her experience using Goron Tula Fruit and a sweet she had tried, I was hooked. There is nothing better than word of mouth advertising tbh. I used to have my reservations about Kayan Mata but because a friend of mine had a good experience using it, I just knew I needed to try it.

Gbemi eventually called to make dinner plans and when the time came, before meeting up with him, I took the Gorun Tula fruit/syrup. When I tell you I was WET.

The effects started immediately. I was a literal walking fountain from my house, to my car to his house. He wasn’t around when I got to his, so I had to wait for him. It took everything in me not to touch myself while I waited. I was so turned on, my body felt like it was on fire. Once he came, I didn’t even wait for him in the bedroom. We had sex starting from his living room, to his kitchen, to his laundry room, to his bedroom, and then did a full 360–It was amazing. It made sex feel so much better and it clearly increased my libido.

The A*shole

Fastforward, sex with Gbemi was great and so was everything else. We weren’t dating exclusively but things had been going well. I had been taking the Goron Tula syrup every now and then and tbh, I loved the experience. A checkup with my gynecologist confirmed that the reason my vagina was going through a literal dry spell was due to the effects of Birth Control Pills, which I had started a few months prior. So using aphrodisiacs was what I called balancing things out.

So anyway, one night, I was sleeping over at Gbemi’s house and was on the phone to my best friend. We were just having one of those girl chats so we were talking about all sorts. I think he eavesdropped because I noticed some hostility that night. He didn’t even want to have sex which was weird, because normally this man couldn’t go a second without touching me.

The next day, he went to work early as usual and not too long after he left, his security knocked loudly on the door and as soon as I answered, he told me I had to leave the house. I went off on him and immediately called Gbemi, who didn’t pick up. I called him more than 100 times, and all I got was silence. Eventually I left because I don’t like embarrassment. I still kept on calling him because I was so confused about the whole situation but he never picked up.

I waited all day for his call or text, but didn’t hear from him. I eventually fell asleep and woke up to a text saying he doesn’t f*** with me anymore, and that I should never come to his house or he’ll arrest me.

I still don’t know know what I did, but none of that even mattered because after like 2 months of crying myself to sleep, would you believe he announced his engagement on Instagram? He might not even have overheard anything. Judging by the situation, he probably just wanted to ghost me and thought of a clever way to do it.

*Names have been changed

*This article has been edited and condensed for clarity

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