From college friends to childhood besties, our new series, “Girlfriends”, is dedicated to exploring and celebrating the incredible journey of female friendships in all their forms. This brand-new series dives into the highs and lows that come with these special bonds, offering a space to connect, inspire and reflect on the power of friendship. Through honest and heartfelt interviews, we aim to foster a deeper appreciation for female friendships’ unique dynamics and complexities.
In this article, Chisom and Tovia, content creators—amongst many other amazing things, share with us how they met 3 years ago, instantly clicked and have been inseparable ever since. They reflect on their tried and trusted way to resolve conflict, how their friendship has been a catalyst for their personal growth and what they think is the biggest stereotype on female friendships.
Delve into this heartfelt interview between these two IT girls who are so alike—they even get mistaken for twins!—and have so much love to give each other.
Hi!! Pleased to have you both here. Can you introduce yourselves to us?
Chisom: Hello everyone my name is Chisom and I’m an entrepreneur and a content creator.
Tovia: Hey, beautiful people! I’m Tovia Egharevba, I’m a content creator, model, and social media strategist, and honestly? I just love making magic online. Whether it’s creating viral content, managing brands, or just showing up as my most authentic self, I bring my own unique touch to everything I do—because there’s only one me!
Beyond the hustle, I’m all about growth, knowledge, and becoming a woman of strength. I want to motivate people to chase their dreams just by being myself. I love my quiet moments, but when it’s time to turn up with friends and family, I’m all in! So if you’re into good vibes, creative energy, and a little bit of laughter along the way, you’re in the right place.
When and how did you two meet?
Chisom: We met 3 years at No.5 lounge with a group of friends. No one necessarily made the first move, we just said hi to each other and decided to follow up by following ourselves on Instagram.
Tovia: I can’t really put a date to it but I knew her on social media first and in 2022 I think we connected well. I saw her for the first time at a restaurant where we had mutual friends and to be honest it was love at first sight. We kicked it off from there…
What was your first impression of her? Was it accurate to who she is as a person?
Chisom: Tovia has always been a sweet girl. She was very nice and friendly and I remember us taking a cute picture the first day we met. I was a bit stunned when we met though because she was exactly like me— just the darker version, haha.
Tovia: My first impression was just as I had imagined. She was full of energy and sweetness. Her smile was so big, you just had to smile tooo. She was polite and easy going and that is a big plus for me. l et’s not forget how pretty she is!
What Brings You Together and Unifies You in Your Friendship? Do You Have Things in Common, or Is It an Opposite-Attract Situation?
Chisom: Me and Tovia go together real bad. She’s literally like my partner in crime and we do almost everything together. We have so much in common and we’re always in sync to the extent where strangers think we’re twins.
Tovia: I think we have a lot in common! We almost behave the same way to be honest. Our goals, likes and dislikes are very similar and I think this has really brought us together even more. Most importantly, I love life and I definitely love to enjoy it to but the overall minister of enjoyment is Chisom lol.
We adored you girls’ #FriendshipValentine Insta post showing off your lacebycataleya bag and wallflower beauty gloss!
How does it feel being in a similar line of business as your friend?
Chisom: It feels amazing because I love doing girly stuff so it was easy for me and Tovia to create the content.
Tovia: It feels really good to have someone who does the same thing you do. Cause then you don’t have to explain too much, everything just goes smoothly.
Have you ever had a falling out? How did you navigate that and come back stronger?
Chisom: We definitely don’t stay mad at each other for long and we barely fight. I can count how many times we’ve fought— honestly it’s just twice. Obviously no relationship comes without fights so even the ones that will come later on I’m pretty sure we’d be able to handle it only because we’ve built our friendship in a certain way. Tovia’s my sister and I love her so no matter how angry she might make me, I always try to control my anger and talk things out with her in a reasonable manner.
Tovia: Fallout? No! But we have had misunderstandings. I strongly believe in accountability. The times Chisom and I have had arguments, we resolved it by simply apologising and it works because the love we share is stronger than any hate.
Think back in the past, is there an experience you both had together that when you remember, you laugh out loud?
Gist us!!!
Chisom: I’m here to tell you guys today that Tovia eats like a thief LOL. Before I met this babe, I used to think I was such a foodie till I invited her to my sister’s beach party last year.
Tovia: * Laughs *
Chisom: Tovia ate every single thing there LOL. I was too busy to even attend to her on that day but she made sure she was well fed. We’re always hungry at the same time and we love to eat and sleep. So every time we mention my sister’s beach party, we always have a good laugh.
Tovia: Honestly we laugh all the time. There is no dull moment with Chisom. But she’s right, what always gets me is how we get hungry at the same time and end up eating like thieves. You would think I would be judged if I say I am already hungry teo hours after eating but no, my bae is also hungry too. Also, everytime we think out loud and we are in sync, it causes us to laugh a lot
Tovia, what’s something in Chisom’s wardrobe you want to steal?
Chisom has some really good taste in bags and perfumes!!!
What’s something you want to throw away from Chisom’s closet?
Hmmm, I can’t think of anything really.
Chisom, What’s something in Tovia’s closet you want to steal?
Most of her cologne that I don’t have.
What’s something you want to help her throw away?
Nothing oh.
What’s the biggest way your bestie has helped you grow as a person?
Chisom: Tovia has always pushed me to achieve a lot of things. I started my gym journey because Tovia would call me every morning to wake me up so we get ready at the same time and make it to the gym early.
Tovia: To be fair, you’re an amazing gym partner.
Chisom: Awww. Tovia has always been someone to have my back whenever I tell her I’m slacking in a certain area . She always reassures me that she has got my back and she dey for me.
Tovia: Being around Chisom has made me realize that there is nothing I put my mind to that I cannot attain. She is such a determined girl and it motivates me. She is also a strong girl not only physically but also emotionally and mentally and I love that about her.
Chisom: Thank you girl.
What do you love about her that you always say?
Chisom: I always remind her of how selfless she is. She is always ready to go above and beyond for me. I also love that our energies are so pure, everything just feels right—that’s why we spend so much time in each other’s space, because we enjoy each other’s company.
Tovia: I love how easy going she is. She is a sweet girl for real. I always say how much I enjoy being around her cause I don’t have to do too much.
What’s one thing you love about her that you never really say out loud?
Chisom: I love how dedicated she is to her content creation. She really does motivate me to become better and she’s currently teaching me how to edit and film properly.
Tovia: Her attention to details! Down to her brand “Shop Munie”, Chisom doesn’t play with it
What’s one stereotype about female friendships that you think is completely false?
Chisom and Tovia: Drama!
Chisom: My friendship with Tovia has not one bit of drama in it. It has never been a thing of competition between the both of us. It’s more like how can we help each other out and become better women than we already are. We constantly find ourselves in situations where we remind ourselves of our goals and how we would achieve them. I just feel like we can legit do anything together because we’re both goal-driven.
Tovia: I have not for once felt she didn’t have my best interest at heart. I don’t think I am in a competition with her and I think she feels the same way too because so far, there hasn’t been any form of doubt in our relationship
If you were to write a “best friend handbook,” what would be the first rule?
Chisom: Don’t ever be jealous of your friend. It should always be a case of genuine happiness for her instead, because your happiness is her happiness.
Tovia: Be honest, be content, and be satisfied with what you have. Self love is essential. You have to love yourself so you can love others right.
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