The sound of Amapiano is bleeding from every speaker, your calendar is already screaming for mercy, and the sexual tension between you and a detty december romance is palpable.
Ah…the infamous Detty December, the official month of IJGBs, questionable decisions and unforgettable nights. While you’ve got your outfits sorted and your concert tickets booked, there’s one accessory you might still be looking for: a fun, temporary, and ridiculously attractive fling to make the memories with.
But in a sea of beautiful people all looking for a good time, how do you stand out? This is your official playbook for next-level flirting that will have your chosen one locked in before the New Year’s countdown begin.
1. Master the Art of Playful Rivalry
Forget boring introductions. Nothing builds chemistry faster than a little friendly competition. This is your secret weapon to create an instant “us” dynamic. Is he a die-hard Wizkid fan? Boldly declare your unwavering allegiance to Davido and watch the sparks fly. Is he ordering a Chapman? Tease him gently, “Ah, you like sweet things, abi?” while you confidently order a whiskey sour. The goal is to create a fun, low-stakes debate. It’s memorable, it’s flirty, and it immediately sets you apart from everyone else who leaves it as, “Nice to meet you.” Be the pretty face that’s a fun challenge.
2. Befriend His Friend
This move is pure, undiluted genius. Picture this: your target is in a group, looking intimidatingly cool. Instead of making a direct, high-pressure beeline for him, turn your attention to his approachable-looking friend. Strike up a conversation. Compliment the friend’s sneakers, ask them if they know what time the next artist is coming on stage.
Why? Because it’s disarming. It shows you’re a cool, social person, not just a girl on a desperate mission. The friend might turn to your crush and say, “Hey man, this is [Your Name], she was just asking about…” Boom. You now have a warm entry with a character reference. And in cases the introduction doesn’t happen? Your crush will spend the rest of his night wondering, “She was cool enough to talk to my boy, why didn’t she speak to me?” You’ve planted a seed of curiosity, and that, my dear, is powerful.
3. Ask For “Help”
We love a good damsel-in-distress moment and it’s simple: just create a simple excuse for an interaction. If you notice your crush standing nearby, look slightly puzzled.You could pretend you’re looking for the restroom or ask, “Sorry, can you help me take a quick picture? The lighting here is amazing.” It’s a low-stakes request that allows him to be a mini-hero. Do this and watch a 30-second starter interaction turn into a 30-minute conversation.
4. Use Your Eyes
In a loud, crowded room, your eyes are your megaphone. It’s time to learn the four-step code: Scan, Lock, Smile, Look Away.
- Scan: Casually let your eyes wander across the room.
- Lock: When you find your target, let your eyes meet his for at least a solid two seconds
- Smile: Give him a small, almost secret smile. Not a wide grin, just a hint of one.
- Look Away: Break eye contact and go back to talking to your friends or looking at your phone.
You’ve just sent a powerful, confident signal without saying a word. You’ve said, “I see you, I’m interested, and now the ball is in your court.”
5. Give Them a Moment to Watch You
People need a moment to take you in without feeling the pressure of direct interaction. Give them a couple of opportunities to just observe you. When you get up to go to the bar or the restroom, own it. Pretend you’re on a runway and with a little extra strut. You can even have a nice little moment with your hair. When you’re looking at the menu, get deep into it. This allows them to check you out without worrying that you’re watching them back. These are the moments where attraction solidifies, when they go from thinking “she’s cute” to “wow, I need to talk to her.”
6. Drop a Compliment That Actually Lands
Anyone can call him “fine boy” or “big head.” It’s cliche. The key to a compliment that gets you closer is specificity. Pay attention. Did he tell a funny story? “You’re actually hilarious.” Is he wearing a unique ring? “I love your rings, you have great taste.” Does he have a nice smile? “You have a really warm smile.” A genuine, specific compliment shows that you’re not just looking, you’re seeing him. It’s a direct deposit into his ego, and he won’t forget it.
7. The Post-Meetup Text: Master the Subtext
You got his number or maybe his social medial handle. The night is over. Do not, under any circumstances, send this: “It was nice meeting you. Hope you got home safe.” It’s sweet, but it’s the text your auntie would send. It’s literal. It has zero rizz and feels too obvious.
Instead, you’re going to master the sexy, subtle, subtext-filled message. A few hours later, or the next morning, send this:
“Tonight was really fun…”
Let’s break down why this is perfection.
- It’s short and doesn’t look like you spent an hour drafting a paragraph. It’s effortless.
- The word ‘fun’ is desire language. It’s suggestive. It hints that more fun could be had in the future.
- The ellipses, that is, the three dots, are full of unspoken things. They say, “I’m not saying everything I’m thinking right now.” It creates mystery.
This one simple text opens the door for a reply that isn’t just “You too.” It invites a flirty response and maybe a call to action to see again (wink wink)
Remember, the ultimate secret ingredient to flirting well is confidence. Own your vibe and don’t be afraid to have a little fun. Go forth and conquer. May your nights be long, your Uber rides be short, and your breakfast be optional. Happy flirting!
